Monday, August 1, 2011

I kept making promises....

...that I would actually use my blog this time around and by God have I fallen behind.  But here I am with a renewed sense of purpose and vigor (for now...Hey, at least I'm honest).

I guess the reason I so quickly abandoned my blog was because I didn't really know what I wanted to do with it.  There are two kinds of people that will read this... A) The far more likely group of people that I actually know and speak to on a regular basis.  And with this group reading I can't really expect them to want to read stories about my day when I am just going to tell them about it face to face. And B) people I do not know at all (I understand there may be people that I knew once just trying to keep in touch or noisy relatives trying to keep tabs...Hi Mom...but for the sake of the post let's move on).  I am not one to presume that anecdotes about my day off or being drained about work will be engaging enough to have people come back again after one read.

So, with that in mind the question poses itself...What the hell do I write about?  The last post I did back in February had the right feel I think.  It was a quick tight story about my life, and then my personal insight on the story.  So I think I'll try that for awhile and see how it goes...  Without any further adieu....

Just now realizing how infatuated I am with ellipses. (One period with intention)

So, as many of my friends are aware there are a few of my co-workers that I do not get along with.  It is a common issue and something I have had to personally deal with since the original crew at GameStop started getting broken up (Man, what a great group of co-workers, no drama whatsoever).

When I first started my job there were two people I worked with that were very antagonistic and deceitful. It made work a misery when I would see one of them (or God forbid both of them) at work as I arrived.  Ever since my college career I have made it a point to avoid these types of people.  The type of person that will find the most innocent thing about people and attempt to exploit it to the point of making them feel ashamed about it.  In my case terms like "Gamer", "Nerd", "Geek", etc. were thrown around as if they were dirty words.  Well light at the end of the tunnel, one of them quit to go to a different job.  And something amazing happened, the other girl (Yes, they were both women, more on that later) became nicer, friendlier, kinder.  It was incredible and I began to think, "Hey, maybe it was just the other girl.  Maybe this one wasn't so bad all along).  Boy was I wrong.

Fast forward about 6 months, new girl gets hired and seems very nice, cheery, and professional.  She meshed well with just about everyone.  Her and the aforementioned "other girl" struck up a grand friendship involving spending time together outside of work.  Then out of nowhere they both started back in with the backstabbing, name-calling, and mean-spiritedness that other girl and old girl were so skillful at.  I was so confused, because new girl and I got along fairly well.  Not so much that I would spend time with here outside of work, but you know... compatible co-workers.

Without spending too much time on the remainder of the story...final act involves other girl quitting and new girl making the same 180 degree turn other girl had made once her cohort left.  It was a revelation.

Because up to this point I had only really encountered this type of woman was in some form of education.  (Yes, my experiences have painted this phenomenon as being exclusively women, but if men have acted this way towards you let me know.)  In any form of schooling, people can find those that are truly like them a flock to each other, but outside of school its harder unless you have hobbies and whatnot to interact with people outside of work.  This type of girl only truly acts out in groups, which is why on their own these girls have acted so nice and genuine, because if they start acting this way alone then they become the target since there is no one to back them up.  I don't really know the point of this post...wait I think I have it! (Damn, most of the post gone by without another ellipse.)

We as people are social creatures, yes in a survival sense but also in a personality sense.  Let me explain.  We as creature have inherent joys, dislikes, and quirks; but it is tough to let those things out around people we either know don't share them or are unsure how they will react.  In the example of the (To borrow a phrase from a Lindsey Lohan movie) "Mean Girls", they enjoy spreading rumors, gossiping, and dragging people through the mud.  But if one of them tries to befriend me and reveal those parts of themselves, not only will I not share their excitement for "who slept with who", but more often than not I will react antagonistically.  One the same point, if I start talking to a co-worker about the Captain America movie, DnD, or a match of Halo, majority of them won't care.  Which is why it is great to find those people that share your interests, as long as it doesn't hurt others (Looking at you "Mean Girls".)

Okay, this topic goes pretty deep and its going to drag on for a long time, but that my general thought process on it.  I'm sure I'll come back to it again once the remaining co-worker finds another soulless creature to join her in cracking the same jokes about me I've heard since 3rd grade.  Anyway, I'll leave you with this... (Damn!)




“Keep away from those who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great make you believe that you too can become great.”   -Mark Twain